Friday, August 18, 2017

Why I fear independence

As I mentioned in the start of this series of posts, I didn't like the idea of personal independence. I think a lot of that had to do with fear. I'm using the past tense, but maybe I should be using the present tense as well. Whew, this feels like a weight off my chest. 

I feared/fear...


I suspect that many people do as well. I think we should talk about this issue, loneliness, more in society. 

I've talked about loneliness a few times here. Most notably, here and here. But I can and should talk about it a lot more, whether in person or in written form. 

Thursday, August 17, 2017

To be able to think plenty of your own wonderful, unique thoughts;

To be able to feel a wide range of emotions and feel complex emotions, fully;

To be able to meet new people and form all types of genuine relationships;

To be able to experience the thrill of adventure, big and small, on a regular basis;

Is truly a gift. 

Independence is also a skill. It takes heart, takes confidence, takes intelligence, takes experience. 

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Sunday, August 13, 2017




I think that any discussion of independence must start with a discussion on dependence. 

Being totally dependent and totally independent are not mutually exclusive. They can coexist at the same time. It's just one of the mysteries of how this world works. 

So before I say anything else about independence in this series of posts, I want to stress the importance of being dependent. 

Specifically, being dependent on people. 

The more dependent, the better. 

This isn't weak. It's strong to be able to humble ourselves and to be able to trust others. 

Just as long as we're being equally independent, at the same time.

Saturday, August 12, 2017


I'm going to begin a series of posts on independence. Not in a political sense. In a personal sense.

When I was younger, I didn't like the idea of independence. Is that strange? I don't know. But I'll start here.

There's a lot to say!