Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Taking it slow

Just because someone is independent and can do everything, doesn't mean he/she has to actually do everything.


Why?

Independence is NOT about proving how capable we are. It's just about being capable enough.

With this mindset, we surely won't be doing 100% of what we are actually capable of.

Monday, September 18, 2017

Dark days

I have an independence problem, and today I want to talk about the point in my life in which I believe my non-independence was at its worst.

It was right after college. I was in my early twenties.

I was done with my required schooling now -- as defined by my community's social standards. So, I was not to be taken care of anymore. I was responsible for myself in this world now, for the first time in my life. It was a very new stage of life. This was the mindset.

A healthy, independent person would have felt scared, yet excited, being in this stage of life.

But this was not how I felt. Instead, I felt totally unprepared. I knew I was inadequate. This wasn't just an insecure feeling. This was the truth.

Even worse, I had no idea what to do about my inadequacy. I had no idea how to improve.

The independence in my life made me feel shocked and sick. A wonderful thing, turned into a terrible thing.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Independent people I know 

-Ambitious people
-People who travel (explore) the world by themselves 
-People who adapt to new environments 
-People who challenge authority successfully 
Brave, part 2

Scared
Right 
Calm
Difficult 
Brave

I am many things, and brave is not one of them.

Unfortunately, I still have to be brave. Independent people are brave.

Friday, September 15, 2017

Measuring independence 

This is my own measure of independence for myself. 

I know this is my weakest area in regards to independence, and thus, the measure for me.

It is being able to be a leader among a group of friends.

This might sound like a strange and atypical measure of independence, but I don't think I'm very normal. 

As for measuring myself, I'm not there yet.

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Maintaining independence 

It's not easy. It's not for the lazy. I think it's for me. 

Difficult things are worth it.