Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Taking it slow

Just because someone is independent and can do everything, doesn't mean he/she has to actually do everything.


Independence is NOT about proving how capable we are. It's just about being capable enough.

With this mindset, we surely won't be doing 100% of what we are actually capable of.

Monday, September 18, 2017

Dark days

I have an independence problem, and today I want to talk about the point in my life in which I believe my non-independence was at its worst.

It was right after college. I was in my early twenties.

I was done with my required schooling now -- as defined by my community's social standards. So, I was not to be taken care of anymore. I was responsible for myself in this world now, for the first time in my life. It was a very new stage of life. This was the mindset.

A healthy, independent person would have felt scared, yet excited, being in this stage of life.

But this was not how I felt. Instead, I felt totally unprepared. I knew I was inadequate. This wasn't just an insecure feeling. This was the truth.

Even worse, I had no idea what to do about my inadequacy. I had no idea how to improve.

The independence in my life made me feel shocked and sick. A wonderful thing, turned into a terrible thing.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Independent people I know 

-Ambitious people
-People who travel (explore) the world by themselves 
-People who adapt to new environments 
-People who challenge authority successfully 
Brave, part 2


I am many things, and brave is not one of them.

Unfortunately, I still have to be brave. Independent people are brave.

Friday, September 15, 2017

Measuring independence 

This is my own measure of independence for myself. 

I know this is my weakest area in regards to independence, and thus, the measure for me.

It is being able to be a leader among a group of friends.

This might sound like a strange and atypical measure of independence, but I don't think I'm very normal. 

As for measuring myself, I'm not there yet.

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Maintaining independence 

It's not easy. It's not for the lazy. I think it's for me. 

Difficult things are worth it.